tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post4021549850801984477..comments2024-02-24T03:14:25.170-05:00Comments on A Half Baked Life: The Value of a Life, and Zucchini FrittersJustine Lhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14190295175501659469noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-38298459715033075022011-08-31T17:59:26.718-04:002011-08-31T17:59:26.718-04:00Your family upbringing in terms of finances sounds...Your family upbringing in terms of finances sounds a lot like mine, as does the difficulty in adjusting to no salary after, er, making one. They're difficult waters to navigate. <br /><br />And I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. The truth is that people die who very simply can't be saved. And there's no rhyme or reason to it. But the fact that they can actually GIVE life after death...it's a pretty powerful thing. (And though it's a terrible thing to contemplate, I wish more people ticked that box on their driver's license).Adelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06955659206478903815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-86106424601315318632011-08-12T17:52:43.443-04:002011-08-12T17:52:43.443-04:00Hey J, I've been trying to think of a what to ...Hey J, I've been trying to think of a what to write on this post for a few days now. What do you say to someone who's wondering how to reconcile the death of an unknown to save a friend?<br /><br />I don't know what to say to that. I really don't. Except that I don't think it's wrong to hope that someone else's death might benefit others. I would so want my own death to mean life for other people. I truly hope that when I pass from this world parts of me can stay to save others. That would be a wonderful thing. Hoping for that is not hoping for someone's death, just that their death could mean life. Everyone dies. People die every day. It's a wonderful thing when their death can be so meaningful.<br /><br />I'm so sorry for your friend and his family and for you and your family going through this. I truly cannot imagine. I hope that a transplant is found and that everything happens safely. I'm keeping you all in my heart and in my thoughts.Esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375150088333673843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-34318433726104263782011-08-11T16:48:56.941-04:002011-08-11T16:48:56.941-04:00I hate blogger. Just left a long comment that I w...I hate blogger. Just left a long comment that I was proud of. Eaten by blogger.<br /><br />Jist of post: hard to differentiate between how you value yourself and the value that society in terms of salary place on you.<br /><br />Hope for the best for your friend. To have one person lose so much in order for another to gain. Had a friend who's mom just had a lung transplant. Long process. Not if, but when the body will reject the organ. Summer is supposed the best time for transplants. Lots of accidents, sadly.<br /><br />Recipe: YUMMMY!<br /><br />Blogger, please don't eat this comment, too!!! (Runningmama from more room in my heart)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-21784879304202544002011-08-11T14:35:04.446-04:002011-08-11T14:35:04.446-04:00I will be praying for your friend as well. I grew...I will be praying for your friend as well. I grew up with similar values, scrimping where we could, but spending money on quality things that would last, and taking a family vacation once a year.<br />I've done something similarly, and I'm slowly doing that now, of all things, with glasses. My husband seems to like buying the cheap ones, to save money, but they break quickly after we've brought them home. So I'm slowly buying new ones to replace them, they are pricey, but none of them have broken. <br />I agree with InBetween, try not to fall into the trap of placing your value on what you earn, or what your job title is. That is what you do, not who you are and your value is in who you are. Your contribution to life and others goes far beyond what you do or do not do for a living. <br />My mom was a SAHM, and I am so very thankful. She was there for me when I needed her, she taught me how to be a good person, to love others, treat people with kindness, and she helped me pass my science and geometry classes. She also did not live beyond 52, so I am grateful to have squeezed every moment of time I had with her. You are worth more than what any job can possibly pay you. <br />I love your recipe, I'll have to try it when I get my next box, which will most likely have plenty of zucchini.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02712553731274873122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-11820311612979195162011-08-09T14:57:21.146-04:002011-08-09T14:57:21.146-04:00Yes, this really is heartbreaking. I am thinking ...Yes, this really is heartbreaking. I am thinking of you and your friend. He sounds wonderful, and a good role model for the rest of us.<br /><br />Some days I try to see if I can go all day without spending any money. It is really hard. Even when I stay home and don't go anywhere I end up ordering the highchair on the internet or sending photo printouts to my relatives. <br /><br />I think about it sometimes, leaving my position and staying home. It requires a mental shift towards family symbiosis that is hard, truly recognizing that there are multiple roles that contribute differently to the family but are all equal in value to the goal of a happy and rewarding home. I know several women who are good at really understanding and being comfortable with this. But I also know people who are more conflicted. A friend of mine who also has a PhD and does some part-time consulting is comfortable on the day-to-day part, but worries a lot about the "what-ifs", such as if her husband left her or retirement. <br /><br />Your last level of pay wasn't a fluke. Remember, you were a living example of how life needs to be more than just a paycheck. Half the salary but double the happiness is a total win. Would you want to work on Wall Street where you sell your soul but earn millions? Me neither.inBetweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17212548401525577878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-39520668946174348102011-08-09T13:33:27.907-04:002011-08-09T13:33:27.907-04:00Such a heartbreaking post. I've been thinking...Such a heartbreaking post. I've been thinking about your friend ever since you first mentioned him in a post. I hope that things work out for the best.<br /><br />And I completely understand the money/work issues that you're grappling with. Every job posting I see, I think "But I used to be paid three times that..." and then I remind myself that I'm CHOOSING to do something different. That money isn't everything.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00420841652300294215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-36504533292968002022011-08-09T11:09:41.873-04:002011-08-09T11:09:41.873-04:00I'll say a prayer for your friend. What a ter...I'll say a prayer for your friend. What a terrible situation all round. I plan to make this recipe tonight and give a toast in his honor.manymanymoonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17953231355870217701noreply@blogger.com