tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post4176433087241530836..comments2024-02-24T03:14:25.170-05:00Comments on A Half Baked Life: Minestrone di VerduraJustine Lhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14190295175501659469noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-48204497760359950422011-04-01T02:37:35.673-04:002011-04-01T02:37:35.673-04:00It's funny because I'll feel like I'm ...It's funny because I'll feel like I'm doing a good job with M and then the nanny comes along who dotes on her with such intensity that it's like M turns to mushy-perfectly-quiet-baby. She cries to communicate with me. And then Dh will come over and do some cool fun thing playing with her legs or arms and she seems to totally love it, and I realize that I talk to her and give her kisses but I didn't spend any time *playing* with her... oof. No one is perfect and none of us can be all things to them. I am trying constantly to remind myself of this so that I feel ok that M is getting good parenting even though it is definitely not all from me. You are doing great -- and I can't believe you are already starting back to work. Geez how time flies!!! I am eager to hear how your meeting goes and what you end up deciding/telling them.inBetweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17212548401525577878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-38459145682048627722011-03-29T22:24:53.597-04:002011-03-29T22:24:53.597-04:00I wish things felt less complicated for you, too, ...I wish things felt less complicated for you, too, but I bet you're doing a better job than you are giving yourself credit for. xxJennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16614232173945249682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-84996266867551113742011-03-28T23:08:06.558-04:002011-03-28T23:08:06.558-04:00GRRRRRRR! I just wrote this super long comment tha...GRRRRRRR! I just wrote this super long comment that was lost. Ugh, I'll tell you in person!Cristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17979335536682976259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-46015089701028638572011-03-28T00:05:43.976-04:002011-03-28T00:05:43.976-04:00I think that doing laundry with a crying baby on y...I think that doing laundry with a crying baby on your shoulder sounds perfectly reasonable, if not really pleasant for you... In my limited 6 weeks of experience, I find that I enjoy my time with P when I also have at least twice as much time for myself. Or more. 15 minutes of play time is sublime if you've just had 2 hours to tool around on the internet and clean your kitchen or whatever (while she sleeps). Who can interact with a newborn for longer than 15 minutes or so at a time? You'd have to be really mentally deficient to be able to carry on the mommy-speak babble for much longer than that! Everyone tells you to 'enjoy every minute' of parenting because it goes by so fast. Yeah, ok, but you can't torture yourself by trying to force it when you aren't feeling it. It's just more advice that sucks.Lesleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01015353387009923240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-68402874931629646472011-03-27T16:54:01.483-04:002011-03-27T16:54:01.483-04:00First, your soup looks amaaazing and cozy. Especia...First, your soup looks amaaazing and cozy. Especially for today when I woke up to snow on the ground! <br /><br />Second, I don't think you should question yourself AT ALL for wanting a little personal time! Part of being a good mama is taking care of yourself and meeting some of your own needs more than once in a blue moon. Wanting some quiet, personal space to defrag seems perfectly appropriate and normal to me. <br /><br />As a new mom to a now three month old, I only just now feel a little less scattered in this transition. I can't imagine trying to balance new baby responsibilities with parenting other children and the ubiquitous household tasks (and a job, which I faild at, seeing that I just quit mine last week). Anyway, it is stressful and draining, and you are so entitled to those feelings. Be gentle on yourself! <br /><br />I hear you on feeling like you're making the decision about work vs. SAH on your own. Seriously, I've been there, and verrry recently. I'm terrified of this SAH stuff. I know it is a hugely intimate decision, so I'm not trying to sway you in one direction or the other. Just trying to say that I wholeheartedly recognize how complex that decision is. I'm still trying to manage the fallout of my own decision. Yowsa. <br /><br />Hang in there. I feel confident that you have sunnier days ahead!Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12133740026125341736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-44740443728315382622011-03-27T12:07:37.617-04:002011-03-27T12:07:37.617-04:00love that cookbook! (we have it too)
& person...love that cookbook! (we have it too)<br /><br />& personally, i'd think you were nuts if you didn't occasionally want to turn everyone off & find some alone time. you don't suck, you're human, & i'm sure you are an awesome mom. negotiating a whole new person's entry into the family is tough & it takes months, not weeks. cut yourself some slack & lots of luck to you with the pending job decisions.... i'm sure it will work out.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610970477653618206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-41163794696524669302011-03-27T11:02:15.649-04:002011-03-27T11:02:15.649-04:00I think those perfect mommy blogs can suck it. Yo...I think those perfect mommy blogs can suck it. You are doing a good job, and if you didn't want some alone time, well, then I'd think something was wrong. If the kids are fed, reasonably clean, and still have all their limbs, you're doing a good job in my book. <br /><br />This soup looks yummy, btw. I might have to try this with some of my leftover turkey broth.Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331859341593997811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-57812794611426159042011-03-27T10:06:45.341-04:002011-03-27T10:06:45.341-04:00Oh, I am sorry you are feeling like you suck at pa...Oh, I am sorry you are feeling like you suck at parenthood. It's ok to suck sometimes. I know that sounds lame but really no one can be a great mom all the time. <br /><br />Last weekend one of my friends and I hung out with our kids and talked about this exact thing and how we feel like we are drowning sometimes and can't do it all, work, chores, being a good mom etc. (btw- we chatted as we sent the three kids downstairs to watch movies, while we sat upstairs uninterrupted. of course we checked on them often. ha ha) <br /><br />And this past week I was sitting on the couch, while G was watching a movie and my husband starting talking to me, I wasn't listening and he noticed and said some about it to which I said "I'm trying to have a moment alone, can we not talk." I just wanted to be in my own head, with no one talking to or at me. Since I can't get a minute alone, I make up my own, which sometimes means disconnecting. <br /><br />Maybe you do have some mild blues or maybe life is just hard now. I hope you get some spring weather that lifts your spirits. That usually helps me a bit. <br /><br />Thinking of you and sending you good thoughts. I'm sure you are a wonderful mom, even when you think you suck.Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06248293979879390754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-45955087975912375002011-03-27T05:34:35.076-04:002011-03-27T05:34:35.076-04:00Don't feel bad when munchkin was little and ha...Don't feel bad when munchkin was little and hard to settle i used to tie her to my back african style and do the housework till she feel asleep, Newborns are Hard work, and kiddies can wear you thin in an hour, there is a limit on the ammount of finger painting and playdough i can hapily do in a day. Just relax your doing a great job and yu'll find your new happy medium soon.<br />take careAFMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11642110601509118612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-39662429725252009352011-03-27T00:26:28.784-04:002011-03-27T00:26:28.784-04:00I think that perfect mommy blogs must be even more...I think that perfect mommy blogs must be even more intimidating and self-doubt-causing than perfect healthy living blogs! I also think that you're brave to publicly admit what most women probably secretly think of a lot of the time. Good luck making your decision!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00420841652300294215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544913458028415917.post-1366985843963853222011-03-26T23:14:38.423-04:002011-03-26T23:14:38.423-04:00As a fellow mom of two kids I can tell you that th...As a fellow mom of two kids I can tell you that the wanting to just be alone is not abnormal. I sometimes feel like I never have any quiet time...there is always a child crying or pulling or laundry to be done, dishes to be washed, etc. And while I love being home with my family, the near constant "on" position of my duties is exhausting. If I do get some alone time, like right now, I feel guilty for it. But needing a break doesn't make any of us bad mothers.Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932948160120089696noreply@blogger.com