Dear Stay-At-Home-Parent,
I'm tired of the barbs I see thrown from either side. And today, I wanted to write to say thank you for being who and where you are.
I wanted to say thank you for helping to run the PTO whose meetings I can never attend, but whose fundraisers I consistently support. I wanted to say thank you for volunteering to be the class mom and organizing the parties to which I can send fruit platters, and from which my children bring home crafts and holiday themed pencils that they cherish. I wanted to thank you for volunteering in the library, for organizing the Scholastic Book Fair and making sure there's a family night I can attend, for chaperoning school trips that I can't.
I wanted to say thank you for helping to get my daughter to dance class because I would never be able to pick her up from school before aftercare is over, so she'd never get to dance, which is her heart's desire, and part of what she loves best about dance class is attending it with friends like your daughter. I wanted to say thank you for picking her up from school on the days when I know I can't get to aftercare on time, because she is learning that is takes a village to raise a child, and that she can trust lots of adults, not just me.
I wanted to say thank you for being a role model for children who can choose to become stay at home parents some day, if their finances permit, just as I am a role model for your daughter, who may choose to work outside the home.
Maybe there are times I envy you, but I also know myself well enough to know that I am where I need to be, and you are where you need to be, and maybe it would be helpful if every once in a while we were just grateful instead.
Love,
Working-Outside-The-Home-Mom
Lovely!
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ReplyDeleteLove love love this post.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more with the sentiment.
ReplyDeleteBut I have to admit that I am struggling with the role that the flexibility of some plays in school affairs. At my son's school, a group of mostly SAHM's play an extremely important role in school affairs and some of them put in an astounding amount of unpaid hours. As someone who is currently working only part-time, I feel a lot of pressure to contribute more. Yet, I'm perplexed by this reliance on unpaid female labor. By extension, I'm wondering how this plays out in lower income schools where stay at home parents are most likely a pretty rare luxury.
Love! "I am where I need to be, and you are where you need to be, and maybe it would be helpful if every once in a while we were just grateful instead."
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